On Tough Love

 Being a parent is the most rewarding things, brings the most joy and also the most worries. Makes you test every day your character, faith, patience, love, self control, discipline, ... and when you love your kids as much as we love you, it is very hard to not give in when we know you want something but we know is not good for you.

When you were babies, hearing you cry was the hardest thing. Our instinct as parents was to want to pick you up, hold you until you stop crying and make it all better. But as much as it was painful to us, we had to let you cry. Put you down for a nap, and walk away for you to learn. As we were away, our heart was all broken. We were crying with you, hoping it will pass soon, not because it was annoying, but because it was painful to our harts.

Today, is no different. There are many times we hurt as much as you are hurting, and learning to step out and wait for you to learn on your own it is hard!. Teach  you to lean on God alone, to trust in Him and to rest in His arms, that is something we cannot teach you. We can tell you about God and His holy Word, but that is something you need to learn between you and God.

Trust us as parents. Trust in our love for you. Trust that we need also to be obedient to God. That we need to teach you often even when seems hard and in ways that you may not understand for now.. but always trust that your soul is our priority. Trust in God. Trust and obey, for there is no other way but to trust and obey.

Some people call this: tough love.

Mom.

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